After you have children, your focus is primarily them. While that's not a bad thing in itself, it's important to not neglect other areas of your life. One area that gets ignored after kids is your marriage. I wanted to share some tips with you that will help you keep your marriage strong..even when you go from being just Husband and Wife to Mom and Dad!
Remember Your Original Title
Before you were Mama and Daddy, you were a couple. Husband and Wife. Taking time to embrace both titles keeps balance in your life. When you focus on being a Wife, you're showing your Husband that you still care about him and that he's still a priority. For some of us, this will look like taking extra time to ask about your spouse's day, while others of us might need a whole relationship overhaul! Remember the joy of simply being a spouse.
Quality is Key
It's no secret that your free time is next to nil when you have kids. This is where it comes in handy to focus on quality over quantity. I remember the days before I was a Mom. I could go on overnight stays, head out on dates anytime I wanted, and staying up all night talking was common. In those days, that was quality time. These days, the quantity isn't all there. Quality time is fit in those small moments, such as a pat on the back, an encouraging word through a difficult day or a special snack shared after bedtime. I'm happy to say that my relationship hasn't suffered! Focus on the small moments and try to make them as meaningful as possible.
Random Acts of KindnessFind simple ways to show your spouse that you're thinking about them, even in the midst of raising babies! A small note left in his lunch, a flower left in her car, breakfast in bed or even making his favorite meal are all simple ways to show that you still place your spouse's happiness high on your priority list! Those small things that are done often mean more than the biggest gifts given on rare holidays!
Though society will scream otherwise, your marriage can actually get stronger after you become parents. It just takes a little bit of effort and determination. How do you keep your marriage strong?